1. Ask specific questions about that person, but not too personal.
If you are writing an email for the first time try to include a question that requires a response, for example, where was the picture taken with the elephant? Or, I noticed you like [sushi] restaurants have you tried this [Fill in the blank] restaurant?
If your very first email is simply, “oh you look great” or “hope you are having a great day” or “I saw your profile, and I liked what I saw, get back to me” you will not have much luck. Remember, try to stand out, show that you read the profile, be specific and ask a question that’s unique and your chances of getting a reply will increase.
2. Ask the person out quick, there is no need to wait.
When online dating was still new, people would wait several years before they would finally meet. Then they waited months, and now it’s perfectly normal for people to meet the same day that they started talking with someone online.
You want to avoid wasting precious time talking to someone that once you meet them in person you will know right away there is no way you two click physically etc.
What you should make sure is that the very first time you meet, you are not picked up by them but rather you meet them in a public place, a restaurant, lounge, etc. This rule applies to both men and women.
In addition, some people online just rarely meet anyone; you want to make sure to get that out of the way right from the start.
So after a few conversations online and maybe one phone conversation, it’s perfectly ok to as the other person to meet up.
Remember, this is online dating and not online chatting, if you see someone is simply into back and forth chat, simply move on to the next person.